The truth only hurts when it has to be revealed

john | Dec. 3, 2024, 8:49 p.m. An attempt

"A lie ain’t a side of a story. It’s just a lie." ~ Terry Hanning

There are different degrees to this I guess, but lets try an example of a partner.  If it starts of and some one asks "how do I look" and they started gaining weight, and you say fine.  But as time goes on, they continue gaining weight, and then you struggle getting aroused around them  because each time you told them they looked great.

Now your actions aren't adding up to your words, and you are in fact not thinking they look great, since you aren't trying to bed them.

Then, they ask, and due to a multitude of reason, you fess up "You're too big for me to be turned on"

Destruction right there.  The reason its so devastating, is because you didn't state the truth when you noticed it and asked about it.  So you kept the illusion alive for the person, till it would take too long for them to get back to a state of attractiveness for you.

Relationships are suppose to work together to keep each other happy.  There you failed your partner, and worse, you failed yourself.  You put yourself in a position where you where enabling the furtherance of your lack of attraction.  Till, the action itself, spoke more than the lie.

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